Day 20 of 365 Days to Get back to Myself
Simplicity works best when it comes to finding happiness so I leave you with an excerpt from “The Art of Happiness, a handbook for living” an oldie but a goodie, by HH The Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler MD:
“In bringing about genuine inner transformation and change, the Dalai Lama emphasizes the importance of making a sustained effort. It is a gradual process. This is in sharp contrast to the proliferation of ‘quick fix’ self-help techniques and therapies that have become so popular in Western culture in recent decades- techniques ranging from ‘positive affirmations’ to ‘discovering your inner child’.
The Dalai Lama’s approach points towards slow growth and maturity. He believes in the tremendous power, perhaps even unlimited power of the mind- but a mind that has been systematically trained, focused, concentrated, a mind tempered by years of experience and sound reasoning. It takes a long time to develop the behaviour and habits of mind that contribute to our problems. It takes an equally long time to establish new habits that bring happiness. There is no getting around these essential ingredients: determination, effort and time. These are the real secrets to happiness.
When embarking on the path to change, it is important to set reasonable expectations. If our expectations are too high, we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment. If they are too low, it extinguishes our willingness to challenge our limitations and achieve our true potential. Following our conversation about the process of change, the Dalai Lama explained…”
Ha. you’ll have to get hold of a copy to read what the Dalai Lama says! I encourage you to read this book if you haven’t already, it’s a very easy read and one I often dip into for insight and inspiration, even though I have had it for years. This chapter reminded me not to give up.